Motivation Is Overrated
People wait to feel motivated before they do things. They wait for inspiration, for the right mood, for the moment when they feel like doing it. And then…
May 12, 2026
The Problem with “I Can’t Help It”
“I can’t help it” is one of the most common sentences people bring into a psychiatry office, and one of the most expensive things they can say out…
May 10, 2026
Consequences Aren’t Punishment
Consequences are just what happens next. They’re not punishment. They’re not the universe weighing in on your character. They’re cause and effect, running on the same physics that…
May 8, 2026
It’s Just a White Lie. So What?
Most lies don’t look like lies. Instead, they look like a casual, “Yeah, that’s fine” or “I don’t care where we eat.” They look like telling your partner…
May 7, 2026
You’re Not Broken, You’re Human
People come into my office all the time thinking something’s fundamentally wrong with them. They’re anxious, or depressed, or struggling, and they’ve decided that means they’re broken. Defective.…
May 4, 2026
Children, Sports, and the Developing Mind
Nowhere is physical activity more important than during childhood and adolescence. The teenage brain is still under construction, particularly the prefrontal cortex, which governs impulse control, emotional regulation,…
May 2, 2026
Why So Many People Are Rethinking Their Careers Right Now
If you’re in your 20s, 30s, or even your 40s and quietly wondering whether the career you chose still fits, you’re not imagining things. Large surveys show that…
Apr 19, 2026
Why You and Your Partner Feel Out of Sync
There’s a part of relationships that nobody really prepares you for, and it’s not the big stuff. It’s not conflict, or trust, or anything dramatic. It’s the transition…
Mar 23, 2026
Freedom Costs Blood. Mental Health Costs Choices.
Freedom isn’t free. Neither is good mental health. There is no doubt I will never come close to understanding the sacrifice that members of our military have made…
Feb 26, 2026
The Story I’m Telling Myself Is…
One of the most powerful ideas that comes up again and again in therapy, and one that Dr. John returns to often on his podcast “The Dr. John…
Feb 21, 2026