Identity
Everything we have written on Identity, in one place.
Therapy for Men Who Think Therapy Is Bullshit
The guys who think therapy is bullshit are not wrong about most of what they've been pitched.
Nov 15, 2025
The Problem with “I Can’t Help It”
"I can't help it" is one of the most common sentences people bring into a psychiatry office, and one of the most expensive things they can say out loud...
Oct 30, 2025
Stop Asking What’s Wrong With You
People walk in thinking something is fundamentally wrong with them all the time.
Oct 8, 2025
Why So Many People Are Rethinking Their Careers Right Now
Most people do not decide all at once that their work no longer fits. It usually starts smaller than that.
Aug 25, 2025
Call It What It Is: The Naming Method Explained
This is the core of how I work with people, so it's worth getting on the page in plain English. The Naming Method comes down to one principle.
Aug 9, 2025
AI girlfriends and male loneliness
The number of guys using Replika, Character.ai, and the half-dozen newer AI companion apps has gone vertical in the last couple of years, and it’s showing up in…
Jul 8, 2025
Jonathan Haidt’s Anxious Generation: what’s right and overstated
Haidt’s argument in The Anxious Generation is that smartphones and social media, hitting kids hard around 2012, broke teen mental health. The data on adolescent depression and anxiety…
Jul 3, 2025
Men’s Mental Health: Why Asking for Help Feels Impossible
You already know something's off, and you've probably known for a while... months, maybe years.
Jul 1, 2025
Mental health records: background checks, gun ownership, licensure
This is one of the questions that comes up in the first appointment most often, particularly from guys who own firearms or work in jobs with security…
Jun 27, 2025
Freedom Costs Blood. Mental Health Costs Choices.
Freedom isn’t free. Neither is good mental health.
Jun 13, 2025
Why Men Avoid Therapy
Men kill themselves at roughly four times the rate women do in the US, that gap has held year after year, the pandemic didn't close it, the recession…
Jun 7, 2025
Internal Family Systems (IFS)
IFS (internal family systems, the therapy model that asks the patient to relate to different aspects of himself as if they were distinct internal parts…
Jun 1, 2025